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A turning point in marriage occurs when couples realize that conflict itself is not their greatest problem. The real issue is the language they use while trying to resolve problems.…

Most relationship arguments aren’t actually about the dishes, the unanswered text, or who forgot to book the holiday accommodation. They’re about something much deeper. In my experience working in the…

The Quiet Standoff When you and your partner both feel hurt, there is often a quiet standoff. You may want closeness, but you also feel protective of your own pain.…

When you’re with someone for a while, you start to feel like you know that person. You can tell their childhood story of their first pet, know their favorite ice cream…

Most couples think they have a communication problem but in our experience working with couples, communication is often not the real issue at all. The deeper question is usually this:…

The right question isn’t enough There’s no shortage of questions couples are told to ask before getting married. Questions about money, family, children, career, lifestyle, values, expectations and the future.…

The conversation most of us keep putting off Most of us have had some version of “the chat.” Usually it’s triggered by a funeral, a health scare, or a quiet…

At some point, all couples say this to each other: “I’m here for you.” It seems pretty concrete right then and there. But it’s different in real-life. When someone is…

There’s a common question I hear when working with couples :  What happens when only one person wants intimacy? And honestly? Most couples don’t realise they’re in this dynamic until…

Opening Reflection It took me a long time to learn to resist the temptation to speak before calming myself when I felt angry or afraid. After a few excruciating verbal…